Thanks Lisa, Or How Far Kind Gestures Go

I was having the second of two really crappy bad days in a row. Then Lisa Byrne (who does awesome things, including Social Zest & DC Event Junkie) sent these flowers over to brighten my day. The card was also signed by pal Shashi Bellamkonda, and on behalf of the rest of the team I usually work with over at Network Solutions.

Now, this was a lovely gesture, no matter how you look at it. But it was exceptionally so because – yesterday was one of those days where I really needed someone to just acknowledge that what I do isn’t just a job to me, or how I get food on the table for myself and my family. I have other talents and abilities – there’s a lot of ways I could just make this whole thing about money and just be done with it.

Have you ever had one of those days where you got in a tough spot because you weren’t willing to do something wrong to someone to get ahead?

That’s the kind of day I was having.

I didn’t want a medal for not going along with everyone else. I didn’t even want to tell anyone about it.

I just wanted to feel – not alone. Not unheard.

So anyway, back to the flowers from the Network Solutions team.

I gave you part of the background to illustrate that this wasn’t just a nice gesture from friends.

Honestly, I don’t know those guys as well as I’d like to yet. We’re much more than acquaintances. But it’s not like we go to each other’s kid’s parties and weddings, you know? I’ve done some events with them, but nothing that would have led me to expect this.

The big deal wasn’t the actual flowers themselves (aren’t they gorgeous though? Love that arrangement.) I’m that one girl people hate at the office when they’re hoping to get something on Valentine’s Day. So why is this such a big deal to me?

Because someone saw that I was having a hard time, and when I reached out in my almost sub-conscious way, someone reached back, and then followed up with something unexpected. Someone took an extra few minutes, and went to extra effort and expense to do something.

It made me feel less lost. That seems like a small thing. But.

What else do people want to feel, besides connected? What is all of this blogging, and tweeting, and Facebooking and Google-plussing for?

People want to reach other people. Not for every single transaction, musing and conversation.

But in the end, yeah, pretty much.

Yesterday, Shonali Burke wrote about using social media tools to see the story. I’d add, when you write the story, remember the people.

Are you making a gesture every now and then that says “we care”? It doesn’t have to be elaborate. And you don’t have to become best friends first.

It will go a long way, trust me.

I called Lisa to thank her and Shashi, but this means so much to me, I have to say again, thank you both so much and to the whole supportive team at Network Solutions for all you do.

2 Replies to “Thanks Lisa, Or How Far Kind Gestures Go”

  1. Ah! So glad it made you smile lady, you deserve it. You’re a pillar of strength in our community and sometime we just need to be reminded of that.

    1. It didn’t feel like it that day until those flowers came. Up until then I just felt like the dummy who passed up some easy money – that our company really needed – because I was feeling, as a peer put it “self-righteous”. This wonderful gesture of yours reminded me that I was part of something, a community.

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